Fat Chicks Writing Diet Books?

By Christine DeLozier, author of Diet for Great Sex: Food for Male and Female Sexual Health

What business do fat chicks have telling people what they should eat? I mean, clearly they haven’t quite figured it out themselves, right? That’s what I worried people would say when I set out to write the book, Diet for Great Sex: Food for Male and Female Sexual Health.

I specialize in treating sexual health in my private practice and see patients every day who are in search of great sex. I have a bunch of degrees under my belt, am well-trained in nutrition, and spent countless hours reviewing clinical and epidemiological research in writing the book. Even still, I thought, I’m really going to have to lose like 50 pounds for anyone to believe I know what I’m talking about.

That was the first time in a very long time that those thoughts had crept their way into my head. I’m always looking for natural ways to be healthier, though not necessarily thinner. As a fat woman, I feel pretty darn good about myself, proudly posting bathing suit pics on Tinder. I know I’m sexy, and accept who I am.

But why did it take so long to believe that I could be taken seriously in the world of health? I realized that, with all the progress I’ve made, I was still selling myself short as a professional and expert in my field. Fat chicks can be scientists, health professionals, and we can also write books giving advice on what to eat. I mean, if Guy Fieri were thin, would it lessen his credibility? Would we worry that he hadn’t really eaten all those cheeseburgers and fries? That he was trying to pull one over on us?

Of course, my book isn’t about losing weight at all. It’s about having great sex. And drastic diets can actually cause hormonal disruptions which impede pleasure and make for difficult climax. Great sex, on the other hand, is about abundant blood flow and balanced sex hormones. It’s about helping our nerves fire strong, rapid impulses to and from our genitals. And that I know very well.

Because of my passion for nutritional healing, I always work with patients on dietary strategies to support their treatment goals. I wanted to write a book about eating for great sex, NOT on dieting and weight loss. Earlier in my career, I was trained to conduct scientific research and took an evidence-based approach. Research proves that making simple dietary changes can make sex more pleasurable. For example, mushrooms are an amazing sex food because of their ability to protect and repair nerves leading to and from our genitals. These nerves determine how much pleasure we feel when our partner touches us. The nutrients in mushrooms have proven in research the ability to strengthen nerve conduction speed, which equals better sex for everyone.

Nature is lush with foods that make sex hotter for people of all shapes and sizes. Our primate cousins, monkeys and orangutans, who get it on like professionals, can serve as examples. It’s no coincidence that they feast on leaves and berries all day in nature, taking in many times the amount of magnesium, calcium, zinc and other minerals as modern humans. All of these minerals are critical for optimal nerve conduction, balanced hormones and good blood flow. In fact, green leaves, like spinach and romaine, are probably the best sexual enhancers you can eat. The phytonutrients in these leaves reduce the stress hormone cortisol, which helps to optimize testosterone. They also soften our vascular endothelium, the delicate inner lining of blood vessels of the genitals, which allows them to deliver more blood in the critical moment. We all know that males need adequate blood flow, but most people don’t realize that blood flow is also an essential part of female arousal and climax. For this reason, leafy greens should be a daily part of our sex diets.

But even when we choose to eat a salad, it’s not about depriving ourselves. And it’s not about beating ourselves into conformity. It’s about nurturing great sex while loving our bodies. Many of us refuse to base what we eat on media-driven weight-loss goals. But fat chicks, like myself, can eat for great sex.

Despite the growing attention to fatism, and emphasis on positive body image, we’re not quite there yet. We often have different expectations of people based on their appearance and how much they conform to our society’s beauty standard. We judge others and we judge ourselves. But as we check our biases, we can learn to be kinder. Let’s face it, we all have insecurities because we are all wonderfully imperfect. Let these insecurities be a reminder to treat our human brothers and sisters with gentle humility, and a kind appreciation for their unique beauty.